Apr 9, 2017|
United Way’s Terri Westerfield discusses the many services offered by the United Way of Southeast Louisiana.
United Way’s Terri Westerfield discusses the many services offered by the United Way of Southeast Louisiana.
United Way’s Terri Westerfield discusses the many services offered by the United Way of Southeast Louisiana.
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Hello everyone welcome to united way of united I'm Jerry Westerfield. And immediately I am so very proud and pleased. Who welcomed guest for the safer are battered women's program let's welcome to the show deal Scotland who is the executive director. Think for our battered women's program welcome Gail hi Terry thank you having always glad I am so glad we apple ought to talk about it also joining Gayle hey. Joyce Watson who is the program coordinator hello Joyce good money Terry good to see that it is good to see you glad you're back. And Stephanie is joining us Stephanie brokers and who is the court forget what was happening at the document Terry good morning good morning. And a wonderful about I want you all the news Carol T brown she is a board member with the Saint Bernard battered women's programs. Carol. I do everything to be. You were joining us today I want you know a little bit about our united way. You know it's southeast Louisiana has a blueprint for prosperity. We want to eradicate poverty in our region. We're strategically investing in programs and initiatives collaborations. And efficacy efforts to meet the community's greatest needs. We have a bold vision I equitable communities were all individuals are healthy educated and economically stable. In Jefferson Orleans. Commons Saint Bernard saint Tammany. Ten to Idaho and Washington air uses. Liabilities from Saint Bernard that women's program here to talk about domestic violence today. We know it takes both human and an economic hole. Those caught in the grips of domestic violence often leave her home with little or no money. Can fight almost impossible to get it keep the job for fear their abuser will show up the workplace. And therefore consumed by himself just spiraling down and living in poverty. For thirty years and we have to release say thank you to all the good folks its neighbors are battered women's program because thirty years. They have been helping. Victims of domestic violence and seating lives. And get up quality receiver clap right now this week. I'd audible longest serving executive director. The other domestic violence in our state of Louisiana. Yes I am in among longevity I've been there since 1994. As the director of our program. And we're proud to say that we are united way agency. And we've been doing services. At the at a new location since Katrina. It's yours you have a passion for this is because you've seen so many women and children who are in need of help. But can you explain those listening to the house we do it usually think equipment children. But you're really embracing somebody dealing with domestic violence across the spectrum of people correct. Yes we have they enter our program in many different situations. Some hit the ground running and no that they have to do something to get out of this situation because it's gotten too dangerous to stay in their homes. So they come as a last resort to our shelter. Our two hour program to get. Assistance in there and staying in their hallmark for shelter and this can be people from all walks of life he can be races creeds. Gender it's her correct definitely. Have you seen a rise in domestic on Q you mentioned Katrina and I always believe that it's such a defining point lives in our history forever. It seems like I would call it that outlawed IP distrust factor. I think it sometimes exhibited. In the domestic violence yes anytime there's a natural disaster or anything of that nature it does add stress to the family. And after Katrina we saw a lot of that Louisiana has always been and the top five that this past. Year where we're number two in a statement. Where I mean and the United States with domestic homicides. And that is always something that I know that you think. Trying to just stopped for years away we probably involved. Why is it that you think is part of our ports and our culture. It creates this opportunity for domestic violence. I think it's nice night out a better answer that. I think a culture has apart to do women I think. Part of it as are the gun laws got laws in poverty and everybody else probably. Yeah hate. It's everything else you know it's it's a number of factors and stress you know. When you're in a stressful situation. You know sometimes people resort to doing things that they would not narrowly do. And when you couple the fact that we have under employment. You know we don't have affordable Howell saying. All of those factors are contributors. They're not to call us but they're definitely contributors. If you've also seen you've been reading that contributory factors. He did get stressed. Maybe your other job human home bored out of all the different. Acts of mother nature because from hurricanes to tornadoes to flooding that we've had people sometimes they look for copper and seek it things they shouldn't. In my start using drugs or drinking. Or other things that can exacerbate an already volatile situation exactly even you know a catastrophic illness in the family. You know that can exacerbated you know when a person feels that. They no longer have control of their life. The first person you know you've taken out on injured intimate partner on again and again domestic partner. And I think that's what's something that. That we're talking about ever website that domestic balances pretty effort. To dominate or control an intimate partner repeated system. Abuse. So it's not it's it's just. It's elders. But psychologically it's in order for them to feel better they have two weeks or else you'll works and that exactly. That's tough stuff going Imus has a lot of counseling yes yes. And at the same but not bad a women's program as well as our system programs throughout the state. You know that's what we try to provide and we tried to provide domestic violence education and tried to. Teach our clients you know what to expect what to look how far how to plan but their safety and the safety of their children. Because you know the children are definitely. More affected than people would dreamed that they are you know. Of course I'll children are resilient but domestic balanced truly affects our children so we definitely have a concentration on children. And I'm like throughout the state we're concentrating on teen dating violence. We definitely trying to break the cycle again it's on to get all its eggs repetitious tune you see it you do it. It's a learned behavior of seeks to collect pigs and well Carol I have to ask you because as a border remiss if you really proud to serve. I was or great group of people missing are battered women's program. You involved. As judged just means in effect of like she returned. At the age of eleven. A family member of mine has some other friends. Involved in situations. Anything about me also and I just took this thing has that. That would never happen to me. But it isn't in doubt he'd tee and I did not handed in a problem we can't get time years ago he didn't really have a please assists in Saint Bernard domestic. I'll throw greens he's just published. Of people getting abused and Harry you've looked. Maybe deal QW as of may go to you would get it also was in the program that he'll begin in this situation. His so. I've focused that I would try and help. Did not know we'd like an opportunity afforded itself factory owner radio Monte. Com to volunteer. And dad's side began to see. To get involved in trying to help. And it's really stems from as we see people annoyed with the car. Because the dominant person wants to take control of another person's life and he doesn't have them violently he can use a series. Seats are. I know when I have been attitudes and are battered women's shelters with the program and seen programs an action. It is is. Sometimes you have lost your identity as a person because this has there been following your back as we say. And I've always been. Just amazed at. The women have com and it's our minds she women and their children. Wanna talk about how the programs work the different services. But also seen it it's. To help them gain their self respect helped them get aid that emotional control for themselves and believing in themselves that. Help with education with skill sets that even proper clothing to that you got to get a job at it just. It runs the gamut and it truly is something that I think what you've done is just amazing over their Galen. If you could talk a little bit about that because. We've heard Carolyn Joyce you've busted step we will get you don't are okay but. Trying to get their different steps. You could be in other abusive situation now bit. Maybe it's you don't need to get a house you're trying to take steps to deal with it is that always recommend orders to each case different each case is different. And some women wanna stay in their homes and that's where Stephanie comes and whether our outreach. Doing. Legal advocacy helping them with petitions of you know protect daughters. And accompanying them to court. Stephanie can also talk about a children's program and a some of our outreach initiatives that we have going we'd like to go out to the community to educate. The community. Says deputy it editor with nothing to. Yeah how. Individual black men to. A part of correct paperwork to. Four petitions. To get our temporary street and our OK there logo and yet it's kind at a giants and then. We can. I they come back and rain to me. It's a swift obtained in a legal counsel. So they'll have representation and they go to court will go to court went down for moral support and some actual paperwork for that day. Our. To collaborate with the court that DA's office we started something new that and so we can just. I'll get together and help. These individuals get ads AM BC for them their job you say so of the biggest problems is I didn't even get AT RO a temporary restraining sort of like if he did. Let's just say in this case it's it's the husband. Or the partner of other woman and her children. And he doesn't wanna stay away. That's where the danger begins correct because he Eagles are coming around. Where they're living. And that's what you're hoping that different law enforcement agencies district attorneys will be more difficult for for the gentleman or the abuse or to do that. Correct and that's a plan charter pilot that they about it they show up. To call the police they can stay safe and showed that they're not and to just about this ago. That they have committed to stay NC. Why isn't that an I'm just kind of opening this to whoever wants to answer. Why do those anywhere another of your reasons but those for the listening audience they wonder so many stay in the. Is abusive situations. Well for one thing sometimes that is the saint declined. If you stay in the situation you know where your abuse is you know what he's still on so many abuses. Manipulate. There victims but threatening to haunt family members Honda children even just take the children. And that's a frightening thing you know for someone goes whole life. Basically has to children so just one other reasons other reason of course you know economics. Illness you know maybe the victim has never worked you know and a case of a woman she's been a housewife care for the children. Well us he has come vents terror. That she couldn't make it without him. You know and then one other big pieces. The most dangerous time is when you're leaving you know when you are leaving are you gonna call it. Doles are really dangerous times and at the same and are better women's program. We are constantly. Read developing safety clients you know dependent on what the situation it is if you think. You have summer remarkable information that's on your website maybe at this time. We can go ahead and enjoy some Jewish speaking can you give your web address of the people will be sure that they can contain an out yes Terry am glad to rest. It's WWW. Dot Saint Bernard ST VE RN ARD. DWP. Dot or. And Taylor right now you know someone is going for that kind of hurt if people don't if if if you don't mind as one more time. Www. Saint Bernard. ST. VER. In a RD. The EWT. Dot or alright folks and we'll get that. That information to that website again during the shows so if you didn't get at this time you'll get it in a few minutes. Thank you talked about before you leave the relationship that's on the website and you're right that the safety during the attack occurred for confrontation because. You said that that is the most dangerous and vulnerable point ladies please wait and all of you because under the there are some really really good. Good information that you have and and let's start with that that. I know is it can often begin with the argument. Asked them and yes I mean that the cycle of violence to sink the cycle of violence it begins OK you have this explosion. It's the argument it's the fight. Com and it really happened you know he really hit chiller she really hits you OK and then. There's a calming down period where you know on a person has apologized and then saying I assume would she made me do. You know and you know of course the person is tolerable this is the person that they love they accept that they just staying. Dispersants gonna change he's not gonna do it anymore the person promises to go to counseling. So everything is calm we can't let the honeymoon period everything is great. And then you start seeing the tension building again it's building again it's building. And again cons that eject. And this is the cycle and it just goals on an all want. And that's why you know we would like people to get in even if you don't wanna leave ya home. To just thought. The being educated about what's going on high gear being manipulated. How you can stay saved. And to know that we're there for you re not gonna tell you what to do we just wanna be get to support you. And the decisions that you may that may be to stay home that maybe even leave. We tried him at the site and are better women's program alone what our partners you know I'll I'll other united way partners we tried. To. But that immediate needs of the client when they come we need a way beyond. But when they get into the program you know Stefan is gonna help on lifting the any type of legal relief. And she alone what Allah pump primary chow quality it. Is gonna help the children you know that could be facilitate them didn't school we get you know farms are on. She knows everything that they need so when they gold to the school and its nearest us. They can you know fit right. Okay and that's it's it's evaluating. Your circumstances. At that moment as you said. Here she is going to come back and Arnold's time will leak and she said. And that on a precedent here you may be doing you may be windy which is perhaps no reason at all. Bright person who's been abused as he's done nothing has done things immediately you're shaking your head you've seen this for thirty years you've been working and doing this. What is the kind of how do you get through those who. Are victims of domestic violence and abuse how he'll get through them to help them make the right decision. When they called why we are initial contact and our program is through hotline call. And on that hot I'm Collie assess their situation at present situation. Some of them are just seeking information what they can do it stays safe in the home. Some are seeking legal or court advocacy. And some are seeking shelter some I come get a restraining honor and it doesn't work out and eventually they come into shelter. And we can help provide with other services some level we have to relocate to another shelter if it's not safe for them to stay. In saint Bernard parish. And your fridge because people might know where the program is located door but common try to create problems but I had a good relationship. With the sheriff's office and they really keep an Alfredo yes we do an up to you. A lot of the cause that we get the sheriff's department will bring. When they go out on a collar labor and bring that person over to the show target on our information to call. Have you seen that there's been a better understanding between. A law enforcement. And domestic violence groups they resent that because we hear that one of the most dangerous calls for for police to violent. Is it domestic violence call. Definitely it is. And I think we're seeing more too because we have. Stephanie mentioned awhile ago and it is office there adding victim Africa and victim advocates to their office. There we're hoping to partner went and you know help train them on what services are and what their services are. What they're going to be. Offering on the criminal side of it. We've we deal with the civil Sinai all right with a restraining daughters and Carol I have to ask you. Another near your reasons but why do you think it's taken so long for this issue. To come for for people it's been around forever and yet it was victory it was secret. Know what would speak about because it facts again are classes all races. It it's been hearing yet should we can't talk about it. What Terry you just say it became talk about. And then it becomes acceptable. OK until some wine is believed enough to stand up. You know fly the situation he even has been talking about law enforcement at times years ago when you can't plan. They didn't take a series it was done I'm gonna say the woman Cabela's predominant. So they can in a woman histories has seat if you don't know what DR feel that they're powerful. Hate when that appeals of sort of debt that was to cycle. But not sister in laws are coming out of the kind of taken out of the hands of go to prison has been abused in that cannot take over. Something has to be done that individual a lot of time not just weren't that abuse their hands and serious cash. And sometimes he doesn't want to listen to. Restraining orders or anything sort of get serious fire for the individual book. But I think the more you talk about it I at a frenzied and when we whom will be can do better. Cycle and then you get out. As much as possible. If who beef can tune really have a great impact. I. Should send you I know that you mention Gail last year we were number two in the country again that was between number want to. I guess we've got a little better but still it's just there was that spate of episodes and in the end here and and others were read. Going after. His girlfriend but our former got sent our forget. Eggs are to expect her parents also killed and then it becomes Oscars are brown and he becomes just. So dangerous when an explosion of sorts of emotion finally takes place it's it's. God help anybody who's in their way because and it seems like they're almost driven on data. Yes they are. We do have a clue thumb thank how local legislators. Tom LC AA DV you know for really going and after these laws so you know we've hit some very. Significant loss in the last few years to change. And on Ali that you know they have been high profile cases you know throughout the country that's bringing attention to this problem and as you say it. This has always been America's dirty little secret. Thank goodness that we know that we it's getting out of the open it's got into it the way talk about on a secret people can't hide from it is as you're saying Caroline. Stories like why others some things to do. Are we talked a little bit about and it is Gail or you get the call and where to go or what to do if you're thinking about leaving and stepping you play an important role that. But now it also talks about. And I foundries and on your west and we are talking about preparing to leave. And you were talking about some of this is it just spur of the moment that I'm eruption has happened that this may be some of the steps you're taking borrow that. Temporary restraining order others have been placed about opening credit cards or saves on other things and really preparing for the future. Yes and you know that's a part of the safety plan and you know and asks opponent a domestic violence education. You know we teach people a few in this situation. And you know years staying. Just do some things to prepare you know ditch home bank account. Have extra set of tees. Have some clothes packed the hearing your children especially identification documents if you can get copies idols and have him in the safe place. What this sweater relative off Fran Allen you know and secret place. Where if you have to leave in a hurry you have these things unfortunately. We've seen so many times. People com. With the clothes on a bank and that's it. You know it was sold dangerous stages had to leave. But if they could plan ahead of time you know you keys yet medications. That's another would be you know. People coming in went out their medications and in desperate need farm we have to advocate for armed analysts it's necessary talk to doctors get rumored Farrell's. To try to get these mats refill because they need them desperately. So that's all part of the safety plan and we also try to do community education. And we have been offering Chinese. Debt our staff have gotten together with other professionals. And there's this beautiful place called dog field down it's I'm not cars. That there is Georgian side. Yes. We've had a stalking training. And slash refused to be a victim and we invite all community members and BM by I'll have a kids. You know all in invited us interest and we would love to have you. We've also last mile we had a dating violence. Training and shout soup recommends parish sheriff's office. They have been sending a lot of their guys to come tout training. And and may we gonna have a very interesting training. About batterers and about the danger to Lamo I'm batters as you say it earlier sometimes it could just be one thing to trigger. You know what some unusual behavior but did you have battery is they have a diss on a true batteries where it's a pattern. It just goes on and on so we are very excited to have this training on May eighteenth and dubbed Leo. Arm to talk about barracks. While that is they got they want more information about that. Where should they go and if they want more information of course they can go to the web site that we Favre mentioned but our local phone number is vital for war. 2773177. And you get that one more time Norris is an office door mat by 04. 2773177. Well what about once you've left. And it. You can't let your clothes your back as you said because it was just two you had to get out of their. You know that you're safe place perhaps you either reached out to the same Crocker sheriff's department and they help you get there. Now you're in an. You're praying or safe you all for this comforting welcome to them. Like now what now do you do what those next apps because I know a lot of it doesn't solve the other programs and things that you. They get help them rebuild. The error. Confidence level there their strength to deal with things. And again more legal services to do as you're shaking your head so Gail. Police that the coming into shelter is I first step for many of them. They're command and like I said before some of them start right off. And say I have to get a job I have to get an and come from me to move on with my life in my children's lives. But sometimes that's that proves difficult sometimes they don't have the ID or anything like that they have to rebuild out there I identification. If batter has farmed it. Are destroyed it. So we give them time to weigh their options and say. And so on that do go on to get on an in com we do have a smile program to help them after that. But sometimes you know as is part of the cycle they do end up going back. But we always let him know that our doors are always open if that doesn't work out they can always come back. And CNN and you have some programs that went on I think some computers and things you were teaching them basic skills folks so it could have a greater opportunity. To go out to have an income make that license older children and public themselves out of poverty. Yes we have Verizon shying girl in the mornings. And that's com. Whether intentional focus on job readiness. We let our clients. Do you find their own talks and we support the amendment and those goals. And that's what we work on in their group those goals at this job readiness accessing government benefits. Looking for affordable child care affordable housing these out of town things that we concentrate on. Religion you believe this but we are nearly out of time I don't like bite them. In greatly I am I gonna start this week Idris you've just look at Stephanie. In just a few words what what could take away you want people know about some of the things that are going on the same for our battered women's program especially related TU. And your help with via the abacus aspect of legally. Over here to help them yet they have questions they. Can we're here to help them and get them safe. Okay. I'm gonna miss miss miss Carroll is a board member and and someone news by Euronet discussion been there you've you've been through it what you want folks to take away. I want each individual to know look at the somebody. In bed there easily here his whole. He's not seeking and that domestic situation and his theories today. Serious and life. And Gail police thirty years. My goodness and the longest serving since 1984 executive director. For us to help victims of violence so what would you like folks to remember. In thirty years you think you've seen everything but. When you come to work the next day is always something new that your going to open doors to you never know what you're going to come into. But what I would like people denial is. Don't hesitate to make that Kolb. You know those are important calls if you think you're in danger plays Colin at least get the information. You don't necessarily aren't ready to leave yet. But plays like that Colin know what your options are so you can make an informed decision. Thank you so very much Gail Powell and executive director of the same for our battered women's program is Joyce Watson program coordinator. Carol T brown was a board member and Stephanie brokers and who is it court advocate. All for the Saint Bernard battered women's program ladies thank you for joining me and I hope that we will be back in the near future that yes. And yes I'll cry thank you. I welcome let's all say it for everyone who's listening to Libya and the kindness.