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11-12 7:15am Tommy, can you be your kid's friend?

Nov 12, 2014|

Can you be a parent AND a friend to your kid? Tommy talks to Dr. Karen Ruskin, a licensed marriage and family therapist, about communicating with your kid while also maintaining a sense of discipline

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I David Blake we have say an energy when he yelled no enemy engineering improvement here Saddam's awful Kaufman's yeah I noticed that. And engineering improvement where Jordan Spiegel our producer will actually be able to speak. So let's go and check the equipment cart guys there. Jordan. Come on he's an Alabama fan I guys still gets people incensed by the panting of the Alabama player he is an Alabama alarm. So when you when you see this stunt type of stuff on does that offend you as an Alabama fan none RL nine. You happy the way the Internet. Yeah it's a self you know he'll never bet EPA if you ask and abetted tolerance and and Ari one he's not a better. Patent and he's better for it because it is vary Syria expert who boy we'll talk about dining habits when we come down. Now currently on an. Home when we got. Standard. Really. Kids they do not operate any heavy machine. And I know we'll leave. And it turned Jordan's Mike on again. Jordan here's the deal I think political coal instead of hot or cold will save that for tomorrow after everybody has had a chance to experience the cold weather so. Today's poll is going to be this in anticipation of the cold weather and gumbo. Chile or soup gumbo. Chill of course who are we on it Sheldon and everything Shelvin. But what double Chile gunboats shelled houses and Jumbo gumbo absolutely I would say gumbo to Blake I'm gonna do the chilly. Really yeah well you always are different listeners. Laid back. Sending their love down a well I believe in an episode Bart. Pretends to be stuck in a while now is after in the eighties and and others are either remember this but. A little girl gets stuck in a way Allen and attracted 24 hour news conference calls and large I remember clearly Texas was and well anyway I guy dropped his skis and does he sit on the interval well. Well in South Carolina and that'd be good idea. To go get his keys after they fell in OK and so he's got a well he's go in the well he's going in after him he. He figures you know like Kendrick king does them no and running Gaiam. Rig up a home made wins count awaited with a standard like the title glory down that those homemade things not fifty feet down. Wintering in outlines now. Didn't really think it through by coming to pick up. So his friend try to pull in winds got hung in well it finally get that guy out and it never tragic car keys and something where you had to go fish and Emma are sure where. I. I you know I almost went down an elevator shaft did you really scared I dropped him and wannabes. In the ground sewer grates on me. Are ya right on the street and that they're like two hours of the hangar trying to again and finally I did. And to this day whenever I walk over one of those things a nature of the keys are in my pocket. In an amazing. As you know like them. Texans and her name is Jessica on the floor beyond any doubt well. Things endures working out running backs. For all the men can't yesterday. And I'm thinking really. Build a name. He does raise eyebrows in terms of how bad it would. Guys we have now heard and sometimes you know they just need an extra week so for insurance they bring me guy in keeping for a week inning cutting loose but that doesn't. That doesn't make me feel good when I see him working out for running backs during the week. So we'll see what happens coming back talking about dining and family meals with doctor Karen Ruskin a friend of ours got a few well. I Tommy Tucker 717 Davida you well Kelly rip. And of them if you know who she is which he's the co host of the Regis and Kathie Lee show she says she doesn't care that her daughter said. I hate you after being punished because she's a parent not a friend. US and what about you Heidi is safe friendly enough to keep the lines of communication open but stern enough to maintain a sense of discipline. Seems like a delicate balance there and assorted out our friend doctor Karen Ruskin joins us a licensed marriage and family therapist. And author of the nine key techniques for raising respectful children who make responsible choices. Morning dot. Good morning speaker mark nice to talk to you again tell me how you you draw that line there because you know we run commercials for different. Programs in your eyes say when they say they can straighten it out in a month when the kid is saying I hate union tournament to a a yeah polite young person I think user to buy for not quite sure but. We cut it how you draw the balance seriously between being a friend in heaven a child willing to open up TU. And find out what's going on and being stern enough that you're still apparent. The scene but it is about being the actual. Hit them validating. There reality. While. Understanding. Parents. Set validating and being. All. Doesn't mean your health bowl and they are here to ancient seat. Children feel respected. And valued at state apparently hurt. They hear your or. They feel that there's an overall. In the family dynamics. Are they sell them. A human being not a out. Physical. Rather and higher in iron. We're. And it can't. Be around all you want it to eight to. You read my mind is I think that would that would help. Yeah. They'll let. You break here selects country. And you'll hurt child. Doesn't want to let me goal to get out at you. They should be there and you're thinking. All right so that it what it will be at. Grainy feel. Like me and not. Sure in the fall not eat and let me frame and you're on their land. Police say that goal at lap you know. You. Might want to meet sure the day before he jumped and you know. Being. Trapped. I. The so why it's being. They. Ever. Free you should be. That. You think will be another ample ample. Chow. I'll I that work Italy are being. Out from all. And you let them take. Me. He felt about being. Ill agree that I am currently. Or check in. I you know how I like or what and that you'd. Make each. Because they see. Now apparent that aren't helping out. At the meeting about it. See not fairly well. But that is out. It about them the year are only. An apparent they'll eat the tool that. Cheering happily vote for well. Making it or apple. Or. And therefore. Go higher we should hang it one nick Earl family health. It. Because they. See you at that. Implement actual physical putting rat out. And a speech at. Her because that easily well I'll tell you that the camera there. Forty years and it appeared. That technology. Art techniques truly do what they are. Does an eighteen year old or 1716. Whatever it just all of a sudden up and say I hate you orders has been brewing for awhile. Two things number one there is room. Children. Need that they cutesy saying that. And not find out of the person that. Chop learn from me me. What you speak in matters and that. Parent. Or how they communicate. To. I'm mad at them now the one. And it sure does like adult human error and and virgin are well we know that now. That home and I'm not a skirt and are now. He is child or. Eat it I'll eat at a lot about it. We weren't in eight states. That Eric. Dean and then to hear something has been. It locked in Kabul typical well how they appear. I anomaly beat me every now. There are different story. Active care in Jordan when he five year old producer here tells me he hates me about it every fifteen minutes. She does not spanking him about that. Yeah. Yeah yeah and his group. Any time that we have now they did acting Karen Ruskin. You got it license Mac legitimately therapists author of the ninety techniques. Theories and respectful children who make responsible choices. Jordan Eagles spaces is at right now is as Alabama. 724 tunneling your traffic and elegant girl problems. I Tommy tigers 72 when he don't touch it aggregates and text is they came into the doctor but she had it goes so. When it comes to kids. Would you do they tell you I hate you if they ever tell you that years ago in my youth music says it Tillman mine I hate you. And her mom's response was this is in the circus now if you ever feel that you eat meat. I'm not doing my job as a parent Atlanta now about it because it take in the same stance with my own. So I'm knows that. Now would have to talk TNT six 1870. About how do you balance being in a friend and keep lines of communication open with you he would. Without overdoing it and maintaining a sense of discipline and it's a delicate balance that seems to me I was at an open house. Over the weekend. At Nichols they'd inactive shall my daughter and there were some kids like two of them in particular. That hung so close their father and both of them were daughters. They didn't wanna socialize with anybody else and I don't know when it. Nichols now Northwestern State inequities thank you differences and you should turn your microphone on and now. On an issue inequities but anyway they'd be kids we're like clinging to their parents to girls and I don't know if if it was because the parents encourage better because the kids are shine but it would seem like it's seventeen or eighteen. Your kids should be free to wander off but. And would like to do that in and I'd you know their new environment and and talk to people and so forth. And I wonder in those cases if because the parents are so friendly. The kids afraid to go off and find new friends and I guess if you that friendly than maybe a kid doesn't do any thing never to analysts aren't always out for me as a parent 2601878. Till 386688908. Set any. And how do you balance being a friend and keep an alliance communication open with being a disciplinary Inky and get out of trouble right now. Hundred up WL traffic and for that we go to to David Blake and got it at your purses have either of your chili never said I hate to. No he never heard that to you. No I've never heard that and I see from them hum why do you think they never did say that. I know they bought it. Really at times yeah this year after a punishment or whatever but. Both kids awful good. Well Kelly rip us saying she days you don't care that their daughters and I hate to be issues punished apparently see. Totally kidding you know phoned it in get off the mark and she took the phone away. For a period of retirements this year and care that that happened. And you know I don't know that I think the question here's how would you react if you child tell you that the evening images. You know expressing. Anger at that moment and acting out or do you think. But it really feels that way in. You know it with my kid I always. Tried to explain they were definite consequences weir okay these are the rules of the American this happens. And then she understood that from an early age and I can't imagine her saying that are thinking now I knew it would be to me it would be very hurtful it would till I it would really hurt my feeling is it would make me think that you know let me again and do it right maybe something went wrong here and and the child is not prepared for a for life I'm now. I'll give you an age when that's most likely to happen sixteen. Really I'd that's just my opinion sixteen I that's when it might happen I hate you Kelly's daughter was thirteen when this. Irate in Metairie high UW on good morning. Good time who do you think. Oh yeah at. What age. They. But. She looked. At IDC but I could not sure what. Yeah one. Argued. That. I. Thought she heard it for you. It. Point and we can't. Well. Hard to ignore her. By the same guy. That can opt sugar or. It. Eight. How many kids did you end. Did you and your husband treat them as a subset because they say if if it's an only child sometimes child is treated. Almost as an equal by the pan am by the parents but when you have more than two kids. Horrible more than one then suddenly it becomes not dam against us but EL one group and parents and another group and kids we it was that kind of though it was in your house. And yeah. Well. I have been here at me and I weren't. And as. Well all older ones. They. Go. Well. Do you think you learned anything from number one and number four. Old. Or more. Are you more one on me the at bat or. You work whether she could get up. I. Can. She cannot feel that. They'll get. It that the really. Mean it will. Tell you come out. All. It. Thank you was it re ranked. That rain on Simon pronounced luring coming in Ohio and other heavy on good morning. I can't treat children. I well that day. Every. You name. Trial. I'm not. Matter where your car. Like it. ESP and each era because a lot and beyond that channel. Holding. ED. Or. And all happy would you armed. Me. I like (%expletive) Talking. And at eight. And it. Now. You know what. I. I appreciate you call Lauren. Thank you 260187820366889087. Educate ever tell you I hate you and I did you respond to that or they would. Do you think this is part of being a parent as Lawrence or as rain has said before that hey I'm doing something wrong here I need to change my course of action. Tommy Tucker come back and evidently well. 747. That cold front has already begun to come through you feel the wind switching around in the temperature drop in where hanging in the upper fifties right now allies cloudy breezy chilly 20% chance for light rain or. Drizzle is gonna feel like a forties with the winds and then tonight 30% chance for rain lows north and late 42 it's to feel like the Taiwanese. And south of lake around 46 but feeling like the thirty's tomorrow 30% chance for light rain or drizzle they're saying cloudy. Dreary. And windy but some of us like this weather highs around fifty feel like the forties in overtime Mike Kelly rip us she was on a show with Michael Strahan. And man what a life he has. About trading places with somebody. But she said that are a thirteen year old daughter screamed I hate you. After. The mom Kelly took the phone away from after telling the daughter to get off the phone repeatedly. And she says you don't care about that she's apparent not a friend. And Joe's at Telus right now what it's like to hear those words they Joseph you're on Devin W good morning. A calming article that was up. Much of beautiful war and they had nor would you agree. Highlighted. Yeah well. I get my strong the other day. Tell me that he hated me it was really good rough. To heal it and that in terms of being a father. And whatnot. And I just them Bob listen I'll I might tell you that your father and you know you should respect Israel it'll. Yet this sorry tiger dropping soon just curious there at hand. I don't blame me because sometimes. In they can get sand that sat down wrong path. So let me note T 601878. Till 38668890878. On some of the attacks that are coming in my son Ellis tells me he hates me all the time. Now when says I'd like to know the percentage of girls saying that to a parent compared to a boy. I have two sons went 261169. And send our memory and in my voice and a then there's this intimately kids and tell their parents I hate you or somewhat spoiled. Elena don't get there way that's their way of trying to make you feel guilty in very bad. They know you'll laden the best thing to do is tell him how hurtful it is then that you love them more than anything else in the world. This text about Laura who called in agree with Lori your caller I have four kids my wife and I are the dictators. And not a kids' friends don't get me wrong we're friendly and fun laid back but rules. Our rules and as if you children haven't told you they hate you then you need to tighten up the reins they are so getting over on you. You're really you really think that if you kids it's a good thing three kids and tell ya I hate you. And have you ever heard and if you did how did you react and how do you draw that line. Between being a friend to be kidding keep in line of communication open. And then. Having. Your child not money can you not rather follow discipline and not staying on the right road. And is it different if he had multiple kids oppose the one. We'll find out when we come back from the all at T six a 187 right now time for Devin every old traffic reloaded Terrell. Robinson hi Tommy Tucker double WL talking about disciplining children somebody texted instantly. Proverbs 226. Please read and it is a finalist meta tag proverbs beaten. The other team 22 to six that says start children off on the way they should go and even when they are older they will not turn from it. And again a question nearby text which is pretty good where where did the kids to learn to say I hate you where as they come from because if you. If you raise them prelude to me would be devastating hear hear that from a kid. Because I would think it would have failed as a parent and that there are no lines of communications. Open and and that there's no more logic it's just. He motion and let everybody has emotions but you should never. Say something to somebody that really you can't per tractor maybe if your parent you say you know what it's a kid they don't know on somebody else takes an in relation to Kelly's daughter. What ship a cellphone at thirteen gasoline young and that. I don't remember what aged was it again my daughter person Shari. An internal river money you don't WL. The morning I you do one. I'm doing great have a Q I am perfectly happy and you while my son is packed up and that there are so. A partner. Like any. Real popped. They popped back. Elena call a timeout here you can react one of two ways you can say you know like if you wanna be an in his would be hurt for hurt. They'll be with you real mom I'll take you over there if you don't appreciate it and Dylan. All are you could go the other route which he has mullets are hurtful thing to say you know we do a lot for what would how did you handle. Actually at that moment I didn't. Mean I'll. Oh. That. There. But it. I know they're we'll op. And you can now that. App that you get. And. How old was he 7 NEWS and her nine and how easy now. Thirteen or sixteen. Pit lane and fifteen and celebrity gets along now and has not tried to purchase since then. Column that. I don't like you are let out our I don't have to like your after our. I tell you that I take away from that and I think is very Smart is I think we tend to think in every situation that we have to respond immediately. And you don't. Now take it takes some time calming yourself down don't deal with a deal with the emotional and so and energy I guess it's still does a little doesn't. Well naturally it yeah. Immediate ain't let it heal but. We both now they want out so we ill at the though. I don't know lighter note next hour to talk about the weather that's coming through because I think when it turns really cold. Everybody does on do you prefer hot or cold when your favorite kind of went. I like it. And to what temperature does it take for you to put a coat on or turn the heat Iran I would. Or. I'm right there with you from the original. While even even farther south Italy thank you and lady called. I cherry you do and I think has a great point lead disciplining kids. Having a problem at work or whatever there's no clock ticking. Now if you if human resource is college in with your boss. And they accuse you of something Allen made the clock is ticking but even then I think you have time to take a breath. And sorted all out in your head. Not a text. If I would have told my parents that I hated them I would have dentures today cells are about that about the weather. And also about DW I would begin to show it this this morning at 6 o'clock like 121000. Continued. And dealt with DW I case do you think we really take that seriously. In this area.